Remember, He is part of the wedding too!

He might not get the same attention, but the groom is a big part of the day as well!

    When you think of a wedding, any kind of wedding, one of the first thing that comes to mind is the bride, the wedding dress, the hair, the make-up, the location, the cake, the maid of honor and bridesmaids, the endless list of things that need to be taken care of…that’s it right? NO! Remember, that there is another very special person involved in this whole thing… The GROOM! Remember, he is part of this wedding too!

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    Here are some tips from us to you…and then from you to him!

    It’s your wedding as well. So you have the right to comment about it, but be smart!! Give him some areas of responsibility and trust in him to get it right. It is not necessary to check every five minutes whether he has or has not done it. Once the list is defined, make the review process fun! Arrange a date night where you can both relax and talk through his pendings, let him know what you are up to, there will inevitably be some areas where he can and believe it or not will WANT to help with.

    AW Insider tip…Leave the color details to you and your bridesmaids!! In fact anything that will drive you totally crazy if it is not 100% perfect should be handled by you, but remember, it is his day too.

    Get him involved with the gift list! But make some subtle suggestions that a hammer drill and 60” flat screen may not be high on the list of priorities for you, but you are willing to allow some of his ideas in, maybe camping gear are acceptable? Maybe a killer sound system…with this, it is all about great communication.

    His outfit….so what happens when he comes to you with a crazy idea of a Dumb and Dumber tux? You want to scream at the top of your voice that he is a mad man, and he can’t understand, Why you are not falling about laughing at the idea (this is what his groomsmen did…followed by, “Dude. That would be totally awesome!”) Obviously it would not be totally awesome, but remember, there is a point in the middle where you can meet. He wants a big say on what he wears…after all, you had a big say in your dress no? So be supportive, make him see that the orange tux doesn’t really go with what you had in mind and that you would love to have him at your side with something classic.

    So, in summary….we all know that this is about you, and we all know that you will be the focus of the day…but you know that you would not be able to make this happen with his help in some, way, shape or form…so be patient, be friendly, be communicative but above everything, be happy that he wants to get involved…after all, it is his day too.

“I think men who have a pierced ear are better prepared for marriage. They’ve experienced pain and bought jewelry”
Rita Rudner

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